A linguistic element commonly used in casual conversations, however, less useful in Coaching. Used at the beginning of a sentence, “yes, but” expresses seeming consent with the Coachee ’s statement, while in the second part presents a different point of view. Most often this has a negative effect on the coach-client relationship.
Using “but” just on its own may sometimes be useful during a coaching session. Attention must be paid though to the type of sentence placed before and after “but”. The following order is reinforcing to The client: -, but, +. The other way: +, but, – is usually perceived a weakening.
+, but, –
You have written a very good report but you were late with handing it in
-, but, +
You have handed in the report late, but it was very good.